A follow-up by-the-way:

We could've skipped this entire conversation and any heartache associated with your months-long attempts to draw me into deeper conversation if you had simply sent me a clearer message the first time round. I understand men are chronically bad at communicating due to patriarchal indoctrination, so -

Here is a template for next time if you'd like to approach someone who has challenged you in a way that has opened up a door you'd like to step through, even if difficult.

"Hi __________, I came across your _____________ and was curious to know more about what you do. I'm glad I did as your work is challenging and refreshing. I am _____________ and I am currently working on ________________________. Reflecting on your recent article(s), I am concerned that I might be replicating some colonial or oppressive behaviours. Would you be open to consultation? Otherwise, I'd please like to know about any opportunities to engage in your work directly (events, resources, couses, etc.), as I would be very keen to learn from your perspectives."